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ha8n SG

well, sometimes when lose tat some1 (u try ways to get the person back after u breakup bcos of some miscomm. )
then she had found a new companion (but the difficult part is tat she wont find happiness with the new bf)
the most depressing as how to tell her tat its 4her own gd tat she wont find happiness ( since u dun 12 sound tat ur breaking them up,yet insidel loving her,want her to hv the best..)

tan_william SG

forget it..she will surely think its your plot to break them up and make her go back to you..even if you ask her good friends to help also no use..she will think her good friends are on your side..thus she will be more dependant on the 'other' guy..sometimes when the more you are trying to protect her..the more hurt you are going to give her..she need to learn on her own..to know who is good to her and who is not..if the guy is really a jerk..then let her be hurted by him..its her choice..and maybe through this she will learn more..if you still like/love her..then just be there for her when she needed you..and if you are giving too much and hurting too much..then just let her go..shes not yours anymore..good luck and take care.. Smile

ha8n SG

appreciate tan the advice Smile

Yunhaier SG

So you mean she would find happiness in you?

P.S: We walk on our own choices. Happiness or not, it doesn't determine by your outlook of it. Respect her choice, not because you want her to have the best, rather because you have to acknowledge that you don't really have much of a choice and that is the very least you could do? Respect her choice. Idea

Cheers

ak0 SG

u dun have to tell anything cos even if u do she cant get those words into her mind.
someone in love is juz like swimming wat ever others outside the pool is toking she in the water cant hear.

gerrykoh SG

Don't badmouth him even if u think he is not suitable cos she thinks u are jealous & she will be even more protective of him.
Let her find out herself.

FeowFeow SG

Dear Ha8n,

For some reason, I haf the feeling tt u sez the guy wun bring her happiness simply cosh, as u've admitted, u're still trying ways & means to get ur ex back. Hence, No matter how gd the competition is, she wun find happiness wif him.

If she's found someone, & if u really love her, u shd wish her well. Whether or Not tt new bf is really a Jerk, or whether he can bring her more happiness than u do, is up to her to find out, Not for u to insist & drum it into her.

I noe this sounds harsh, but if u really brot her happiness, she wldn't haf broken up wif u in the 1st place. No offence, juz plain speaking...

FeowFeow

Xcert SG

she will know when to break up when the time comes...so why worry?

SunRisE SG

its all about how you think.. are you sure that you would give the kind of happiness she wants?? Rolling Eyes

Whether she feels happy or not.. is still up to her decision... She chose him.. that's her choice.. if ever she leave him.. this is still her choice.. If you wan the best for her.. give your blessing to her..

Cheers..

Devil1976 SG

It's HER LIFE.

Need I say more?

ha8n SG

tks all, love someone dun hv 2 hv her
tats the principle n wat i reall wish her happiness

Simple_Bear SG

Yoz...

Dun bother to tell her...she will tink tt U r trying to break them up...it will only makes the relations btw the two of U worse...

Ppl will only realize wats gd for them when they gt to experience the bad for themselves...

If tt really happen...n she gt hurt by the guy...congrats...U haf a chance liao...to gt her back...

If it doesnt happen...n she is happy with the guy...then dude...gt on with ur life...go find someone else...

If U love her...set her free...hope she will find happiness...

Cheers...